Posted in Coping

Having Kids Over 40

Having kids over 40 is a blessing. I was blessed with a bouncing (and I mean bouncing off the walls) baby boy at the ripe old age of 41. I couldn’t be more grateful to have finally given birth after being told that I can’t have kids for so long!

However, no matter how much I wanted and prayed for a child there was no preparation for this thing called Motherhood! I don’t care what age you are when you have your first (and in my case only) child, you will never be prepared for what lies ahead.

I used to have so many ideal thoughts of how it would be when and if I could ever become a Mom. SO MANY! Then to through into the mix of being an older introverted Mom makes my ideals even more laughable.

Here are a few of the misconceptions that I had on becoming a Mom…

  1. I was prepared to only breast feed until organic solid foods were introduced. Thanks to an infection, I could only painfully and barely produce enough breast milk by pumping to feed a mouse for just the first 18 days of his life! I’m not sure if it was the infection or the fact that I stopped breast feeding that made it so excruciatingly painful.
  2. There was the idea that I would never introduce a pacifier to my baby! That didn’t last long with a colicky baby. You do what you have to do when your sleep deprived.
  3. I believed there would be some sort of magical village just show up and surround me to help when needed. You know, like we always hear that it takes a village to raise a child. Not so much in my case. Introversion sometimes excludes you to the point of no return I think.
  4. I was a perfectionist and naive old Mom! I thought since I was now a stay at home Mom that it was my job to sleeplessly do absolutely everything around the house AND be the best Mom that I could be.
  5. I wanted to make sure he got just the right amount of socializing so I made my introverted self get out and take him where I needed to for that.
  6. I fought with the Doctors on why he was so colicky and finally they took X-Rays of his throat to show he had such a small airway for breathing! Time to take the tonsils and adenoids out on top of putting in the ear plugs. You never think you’ll see your baby suffer so much.
  7. I tried to give him alternative foods to what all the other kids were having because I knew down deep how bad artificial coloring/flavors/sugars, GMO’s, and etc. was for anyone to consume, let alone a growing child. That became a huge fight with his Dad.
  8. I never thought I would turn out to be one of those helicopter Moms! However, there was the need to be one because I was living with an alcoholic.
  9. The only thing I knew about postpartum depression was that Brooke Shields had it. Never in a million years would I think I would have it. Too many misconceptions surround postpartum depression!
  10. And then his Dad started in on the verbal abuse, yelling, and throwing things at me when he was just 5 or 6 months old. Who ever thinks that will happen to them?

You could say things were way off the ideal spectrum of finally becoming a first time Mom. Having kids over 40 or under 40 should never be as isolating as they were for me.

Now, I’m a single working old introverted Mom to a loving and sweet boy that I love more than anything in this world.

I sometimes feel as though I’m still young, but mostly I feel a little left out. A lot of the people I graduated from high school with are grandmothers now. Having kids over 40 is tough, but worth it!

Whether your having kids over 40 or under 40, things change so just be prepared to not be prepared.

I’m grateful to have a healthy boy!

What were your ideal thoughts of becoming a Mom that just didn’t turn out?

Thanks for listening.

Posted in Challenge

Health Coach

What does a health coach do and what are the benefits of having one?

They are your sounding board so to speak. They are the ones that want to hear you, repeat back to you what you are trying to get across, and then help you dig deeper into the path you want to take in order to attain your goals.

You might be seeking a health coach because your Doctor or Nutritionist has recommended that you eat a certain way that is completely different than you have ever had to eat before. Once you go to your health coach for guidance in this area, you might discover things about yourself that is blocking you from caring for yourself. A different topic from what you originally came in for, but a topic you need to get through in order to care for yourself enough to want to change your diet.

A health coach takes the time that your Doctor doesn’t have in order to get to the real root of what is and has been going on with you. We help you figure it all out so that you can attain your goals. We are your mirror, support, and safe place to get to the bottom of it all. We will certainly help you with changing your diet, but you have to want to do the work. That is why we need to get to your truth for you to want to make that change.

Just from that one example, can you see why you will benefit from having a health coach?

There are other times when you just feel stuck in another area of your life where you need a health coach to help guide you to your truth to attain your goals. It could be that you want to incorporate more exercise into your life, sleep better, and reduce your stress. Maybe you want to learn to cook healthier or are confused about all the information we are bombarded with about what is or isn’t healthy on a daily basis. What about navigating all the food labels and confusing ingredients. Perhaps your stuck in a career that you want to change, a relationship that needs mending, finding your joy, working on your finances, or reconnecting to your spirituality.

The course I’m taking at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition has a great article about the 6 reasons why you need a health coach that I encourage you to check out. Through this course I’m learning over 100 different dietary theories along with how to become an effective health coach in many different areas of overall health and wellbeing.

You are in control of your life. You can stay in the exact same space you are in or you can reach out for help and see a positive change in your life! It is your birthright to enjoy a happy, healthy, and long life.

Your challenge is to figure out what’s been stopping you from living your authentic life by thinking of just a couple of goals you want to work on. Are you still on track with the intentions (resolutions) that you set for yourself to achieve in 2017? Or, have you found new goals that better fit the direction you want your life to go?

If you feel we are a good fit to work together, please browse my website at LB Health Coach and contact me or fill out a health history form to get started. Your first consultation is always free!

I’m grateful to be able to follow my passion on the health and wellness journey!

What areas in your life would you like to confidentially talk to a health coach about?

Thanks for listening!

 

Posted in Challenge

Soda Addiction

We all know what kind of power an addiction can hold over us! I want to share with you my top 10 reasons why giving up your soda addiction for life WILL improve your health.

Top 10 reasons to stop your soda addiction

10. Sugar causes inflammation in your body, inflammation causes disease, disease hurts, and disease can kill you. Outcome – removing sugar (especially genetically modified sugar) that you get from soda will not only improve your health, but just may save your life!

9. Artificial sweeteners in diet soda tricks your brain into thinking you are still hungry. So, you eat more and become more over weight. Being overweight is hard on your joints, bad for your heart, and could bring on diabetes. Outcome – removing diet soda from your life will improve your chances of not becoming overweight and possibly getting a life long disease of diabetes.

8. Genetically modified organisms in soda. The long-term impacts of GMOs are unknown. High fructose corn syrup, Carmel color, sugar, and natural flavors are all made from GMO’s. According to The Center for Food Safety, “unsuspecting consumers by the tens of millions are purchasing and consuming unlabeled GE foods, despite a finding by U.S. Food & Drug Administration scientists that these foods could pose serious risks.” Outcome – Staying away from GMO’s in your soda will reduce your exposure to serious health risks.

7.  Switching to water WILL make you loose weight. We feel better when we loose weight. Outcome – your self esteem will improve and that will create more vitality in your life.

6. It’s less expensive to just drink water. Outcome – you will have more money for the finer things in life like organic foods 😉

5. You will feel accomplished because you are able to give up an addiction. Outcome – you will hold your head a little higher and know that you can conquer anything!

4. Leading by example will encourage your loved ones to give up soda. Outcome –  you will have them around longer and we all want our loved ones to live a long/healthy life! This applies to you living a long/healthy life too. Your loved ones want you around also!

3. It’s bad for you teeth. Phosphoric and citric acid that are found in soda’s cause damage by dissolving the calcium that comprises teeth. Outcome – removing soda will aide in preserving your teeth.

2. The chemical called phosphoric acid that’s an ingredient in soda is a rust inhibitor which is found in some cleaning products. That’s why you can remove rust from things and get a clean toilet from using a soda to clean with. That isn’t good for your gut! Your gut is your second brain and needs all the help it can get in order to thrive. Outcome – removing soda will help in creating a healthier gut which will improve your overall health.

AAAANNNND the number one reason why giving up your soda addiction will improve your health is… drum roll please…

1. Taking caffeine out of your lifestyle will improve your sleep. Sleep plays an important role in your health. Outcome – getting adequate sleep helps with the healing/repair of heart and blood vessels. Ongoing sleep deficiency is linked to an increased risk of heart disease, kidney disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, and stroke.

You can stay and live in the exact same space you are in or you can reach out for help and see the outcomes mentioned above.

Together we are stronger! Let me help you break your soda addiction for life. I got your back and I know you can do this.

Kick that can to the curb!!!!

If you or your loved one is struggling with soda addiction, I implore you to contact me either here or on my website at LB Health Coach. From there we can set up a free consultation. Your challenge today is to reach out for help.

I am grateful to have 12 years of freedom from my soda addiction!

What steps will you take to stop your soda addiction?

Thanks for listening!